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How to gain confidence
Posted by Chris on 30/04/2010
A simple way to gain confidence
There is a two word phrase that you can use to be the source of confidence The same phrase can also be the source of desperation.
If you use this two word phrase positively- it can breed confidence, success and happiness.
If you misuse this two word phrase -it will cause you anxiety, pain and fear.
The phrase in question is:
"WHAT IF.....?"
Let us see how "what if" can be used to create fear.
Fear is a negative emotion that clouds the brain and causes people to act in ways that are often counter productive.
The cause of fear is a specific thought process.
Thoughts of a threatening or bad future trigger emotions of fear.
Such thoughts are easily created by the misuse of the phrase "WHAT IF".
Using "What if" one can bring to mind any conceivable but arbitrary scenario.
Then, that scenario will form in the imagination a series of mental pictures.
The mental pictures will be of:
* Disaster
* Loss
* Pain
As a result, fear is triggered and it feels real!
Examples of "WHAT IF?" statements that you have heard recently that are likely to induce fear, include:
What if the ice caps melt?
What if the Tories get in power?
What if Labor retains power?
What if the volcano goes on forever?
What if I lose my job?
What if it all goes wrong?
Fear thoughts are a powerful stimulant.
They stimulate the body to produce stress hormones that interfere with your digestion and your brain function.
Fear can make you sick!
Fear is the cause of much sickness. AND it is fed by a continuous flow of negative suggestions in the form of "WHAT IF" statements.
(by the way there are an infinite number of possible "what if scenarios"�and the press make up new ones every day in order to create good copy.
Be careful of an overdose of fear by over use of the phrase WHAT IF .. (Plus any arbitrary statement).
Keep your negative imagination under control.
Let us look at how WHAT IF can be a force for good!
Did you know that you can you can use WHAT IF statements as a positive stimulant instead of a negative one?
You can trigger creative thinking and confidence by asking positively charged WHAT IF questions about any situation.
For example, try these:
WHAT IF I asked them for a chance to try it?
What if I put my plan into operation and it worked?
What if I asked her and she said YES?
What if I tried one more time, and this time I succeeded?
What if we tried a different way?
What if we looked at this from their frame of reference, instead of ours?
Positive emotions and practical plans of action can be stimulated by the phrase WHAT IF.. (Plus any positive suggestion).
Then, by the same process but in a different direction, the mind makes mental pictures that could be the start of something good.
The least that will happen is a greater feeling of confidence and optimism.
Remember Fear can make you sick!
So keep fear in its place by the proper use of your positive imagination.
Switched positivity on by using the correct form of "WHAT IF"?�
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